#WritersBlocKWednesday: Does Love TRUMP Everything Else

I’ve been all in my feelings about not being able to have time for an active social life. I’m in the middle of retail holiday season right now. I barely have time to get any beauty rest let alone go out on a date. After several months of ‘waiting’ (including reading the book called #TheWait) and years of dating, technology has come between the physical mating process. Now y’all know I’m a hopeless romantic. I can’t help it. I need to be spoiled, caressed and mentally stimulated in person. I was born into royalty as a pampered black princess yaaasss honey. Smh and so I digress. However, I have grown into a beautiful and intelligent queen who is seasoning herself for my god-fearing Boaz.pink_3In the game of love, I’m playing with a full deck but does love really trump it all? Do you know your relationship deal breakers? What will let your man or woman get away with? Intentionally withholding information to gain leverage in the relationship. Cheating. Lying. Mental abuse. Verbal abuse. Jealousy. What will it take for you to walk away from love? I evaluate and reevaluate traditional gender roles to see if I’m playing with a full house. I’m not perfect neither do I expect my Boaz to be. Know the difference between a man who is not perfect and one that is not perfect for you. He should want to strive for perfection within himself in ways that please God. Which in turn pleases you. I think that’s where the phrase ‘ happy wife, happy life’ came from. I demand mutual respect for my life and my feelings. A silent educated black woman is deadly.

pink_2I decided to take a play on words. Thus…the word ‘trump’.

What does the word ‘trump ‘ mean?

To outshine; outclasses; upstage; surpass; outdo; outperform. A valuable resource that may be used, especially as a surprise, in order to gain an advantage. When playing a card game of the suit chosen to rank above the others, which can win a trick where a card of a different suit has been led.

Why do I blog? To share my frustrations about this crazy life’s journey of love, peace and fabulousness in hopes that my testimonies helps a reader get a better understanding on how to my deal with it all. Black women are negatively spoken of especially when it comes to our marriages/relationships and parenting skills. But the truth is that the lack of one on one daily interaction is hindering a positive  dating life. The silence of every key strokes is hurting my love life. No Facetime. No Texting. No Pics. No DMs. I’m tired of it all! Just court me like an old fashion man already! Call me! Talk! I talk back! I’ve been told I have a sexy voice too.

pink_1With life comes aging, growth and maturity. I’ve learned that heart-break is going to happen. I’d rather have my heart-broken in a few pieces than in a million pieces. The truth hurts. Brace yourself for the pain.

  • Asking questions.
  • Listen to the response fully.
  • Seek to understand before judging. #KahluasKonfessions

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#WritersBlockWednesday: Routine Or Addiction

blackloveDoes having a type mean you are settling for what you routinely like dating? Or could it be that you are addicted to loving the wrong person at any cost? I have been struggling with practicing #TheWait; waiting on my true love; the man that Yahweh has for me. I am a addicted to what I physically like so therefore I routinely date those types of guys. I desire a tall, dark, handsome, intelligent and god-fearing man that adores my body, worships my brains and appreciates my intelligence. Finding my Boaz has been no easy tasks. While patiently waiting, I decided to re-connect with me. Being the best I can be improves the dating process. Clear clutter for clarity! When you know he’s not for you or vice versa, delete the number, avoid all communication because this will free you up for the next suitor. I would go out on dates because I was bored. I began to get so consumed with the “why” we were not compatible, I realized that I was wasting time by routinely dating the wrong guys.

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Rapper Kevin Gates and his wife Dreka Gates photo credit: via instagram @iamkevingates and @realdrekagates

Dating is challenging in a world full of social media distractions. After drooling on my phone for a minute over a guy on instagram who was clearly made in Gods chocolate image; I came back to senses to realize that his looks may fade over time but will his loyalty to his wife and family come first. Will he profess his love for me even when I am not around? Will he provide for our family at all cost? Will he protect our family from harm?

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I may be flawed but my makeup is perfect #KahluaParker
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#KahluasKonfessions: Love Detox (UPDATE)

Dear Secret Admirer.

I took a few weeks this spring to evaluate and reassess my journey in both my professional and personal love life. In trying to get this love thing right, dating at times can be mentally exhausting. No more decoding a dudes text messages. No more decoding the hints. Dude, just try saying what you really mean. Tell me how you feel about me. Honestly….I’m mature enough to process the information.

What’s on your mind? Do I make you a better man? Can you see yourself being in a committed relationship with me? Tell me what’s in your heart and I’ll tell you whats in mine. Let our minds compromise together in order for us both to be happy. Let our hearts communicate with each other the joys and sorrows of this amazing journey called life.

Xoxo.MadamK.

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Technology +

Love in the 20th century +

Control/Alt/Delete the frauds (-) =

Downloading my emotions while dating in a techy world.
#KahluasKonfessions 

I may be flawed but my makeup is perfect. #KahluaParker
www.kahluaparkerbeauty.com ©2016

Happy Independence Day!

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Celebrate with family and friends with a beautiful display of fireworks.

Fireworks displays are also planned at:

• Artesia Community Park, 12000 block of South Street;

• Sierra Vista High School, 3600 Frazier Ave., Baldwin Park;

• Calabasas High School, 22855 W. Mulholland Highway;

• Cerritos High School, 12500 E. 183rd St., Cerritos;

• Pomona College, Hammer Throw Field, Claremont;

• Rosewood Park, 2535 Commerce Way, Commerce;

• West Los Angeles College, 9000 Overland Ave., Culver City;

• Diamond Bar High School baseball field, 21400 E. Pathfinder Road, Diamond Bar;

• Downey High School, 11040 Brookshire Ave., Downey;

• Rowley Park, 13220 S. Van Ness Ave., Gardena;

• Salt Lake Park, 6550 Miles Ave., Huntington Park;

• Crescenta Valley High School, 2900 Community Ave., La Crescenta;

• Antelope Valley Fairgrounds, 2551 W. Avenue H, Lancaster;

• Hansen Dam Recreation Center, 11770 Foothill Blvd., Lake View Terrace;

• Exposition Park, 700 Exposition Park Drive;

• The Queen Mary, 1126 Queen’s Highway, Long Beach;

• Veterans Memorial Stadium, 500 E. Lew Davis St., Long Beach;

• Lynwood City Park, 3700 Beechwood Ave., Lynwood;

• Palisades Charter High School, 15777 Bowdoin St., Pacific Palisades;

• Fairplex, 1101 W. McKinley Ave., Pomona;

• Shepherd of the Hills Church, 19700 Rinaldi St., Porter Ranch;

• Seaside Lagoon, 200 Portofino Way, Redondo Beach;

• Rosemead Park, 9200 Mission Ave., Rosemead;

• San Fernando High School, 11133 O’Melveny Ave., San Fernando;

• Cabrillo Beach, 3800 Stephen M. White Drive, San Pedro;

• Valencia Town Center, 26735 Circle Drive, Santa Clarita;

• South El Monte High School, 1001 N. Durfee Ave., South El Monte;

• South Gate Park, 9615 Pinehurst Ave., South Gate;

• Dr. Richard Rioux Memorial Park, 26233 Faulkner Drive, Stevenson Ranch;

• CBS Studio Center, 4024 Radford Ave.,, Studio City;

• Sylmar High School, 13050 Borden Ave., Sylmar;

• Six Flags Magic Mountain, 26101 Magic Mountain Parkway, Valencia; and

• Walnut High School, 21207 La Puente Road, Walnut.

#WritersBlockWednesdays: WiFi Love

Technology opens Pandors box. The options are limitless. Will you WiFi your love in 2016?
#KahluasKonfessions

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Whew!…
for the last few weeks Ive not only been working my face, missing Sunday morning worship and trying to stay ahead of the trends; I’ve been #LoveInLimbo with a few of my suitors. Before I start downloading my feelings to this dude I need to know is this a real connection. I honestly don’t have the energy to continue with the dating shenanigans.  “I’ve realized that you continue to text me instead of calling me because you have nothing to talk about.” Hashtag you are the you could do better list in my phone

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Recently, my friends have been encouraging me to sign up for online dating. Ummm WiFi love??? I laughed so hard. I figure the odds of a person lying to me are greater increased. He can create this ideal man online but then when it comes down to shipping he either can’t deliver or comes with a lot of fluff. I get all that plus good snacks with human love. Who needs a WiFi love too??? It takes too much time to feel out the application, upload a nice but not slutty profile pic then browse potential matches. Lately since watching love reality TV shows; Arranged, Married At First Sight, 90 Day Fiance has me addicted to the idea of arranged marriages putting your quest of love and committment to the real test. Smh honestly I would be open to an arranged marriage. Omg I can’t believe I wrote that. But this is my online diary duh. Well I will just give it god and go to sleep. I’m definitely not going to loose any beauty sleep over. But venting is good for the soul.

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I say my 2016 new years love resolution is to know what you need in a man, know what you want in a man but be willing to compromise. Finding love is the easy part. The real work is keeping the love that you found.