#WritersBlocKWednesday: Does Love TRUMP Everything Else

I’ve been all in my feelings about not being able to have time for an active social life. I’m in the middle of retail holiday season right now. I barely have time to get any beauty rest let alone go out on a date. After several months of ‘waiting’ (including reading the book called #TheWait) and years of dating, technology has come between the physical mating process. Now y’all know I’m a hopeless romantic. I can’t help it. I need to be spoiled, caressed and mentally stimulated in person. I was born into royalty as a pampered black princess yaaasss honey. Smh and so I digress. However, I have grown into a beautiful and intelligent queen who is seasoning herself for my god-fearing Boaz.pink_3In the game of love, I’m playing with a full deck but does love really trump it all? Do you know your relationship deal breakers? What will let your man or woman get away with? Intentionally withholding information to gain leverage in the relationship. Cheating. Lying. Mental abuse. Verbal abuse. Jealousy. What will it take for you to walk away from love? I evaluate and reevaluate traditional gender roles to see if I’m playing with a full house. I’m not perfect neither do I expect my Boaz to be. Know the difference between a man who is not perfect and one that is not perfect for you. He should want to strive for perfection within himself in ways that please God. Which in turn pleases you. I think that’s where the phrase ‘ happy wife, happy life’ came from. I demand mutual respect for my life and my feelings. A silent educated black woman is deadly.

pink_2I decided to take a play on words. Thus…the word ‘trump’.

What does the word ‘trump ‘ mean?

To outshine; outclasses; upstage; surpass; outdo; outperform. A valuable resource that may be used, especially as a surprise, in order to gain an advantage. When playing a card game of the suit chosen to rank above the others, which can win a trick where a card of a different suit has been led.

Why do I blog? To share my frustrations about this crazy life’s journey of love, peace and fabulousness in hopes that my testimonies helps a reader get a better understanding on how to my deal with it all. Black women are negatively spoken of especially when it comes to our marriages/relationships and parenting skills. But the truth is that the lack of one on one daily interaction is hindering a positive  dating life. The silence of every key strokes is hurting my love life. No Facetime. No Texting. No Pics. No DMs. I’m tired of it all! Just court me like an old fashion man already! Call me! Talk! I talk back! I’ve been told I have a sexy voice too.

pink_1With life comes aging, growth and maturity. I’ve learned that heart-break is going to happen. I’d rather have my heart-broken in a few pieces than in a million pieces. The truth hurts. Brace yourself for the pain.

  • Asking questions.
  • Listen to the response fully.
  • Seek to understand before judging. #KahluasKonfessions

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#WritersBlockWednesday: Routine Or Addiction

blackloveDoes having a type mean you are settling for what you routinely like dating? Or could it be that you are addicted to loving the wrong person at any cost? I have been struggling with practicing #TheWait; waiting on my true love; the man that Yahweh has for me. I am a addicted to what I physically like so therefore I routinely date those types of guys. I desire a tall, dark, handsome, intelligent and god-fearing man that adores my body, worships my brains and appreciates my intelligence. Finding my Boaz has been no easy tasks. While patiently waiting, I decided to re-connect with me. Being the best I can be improves the dating process. Clear clutter for clarity! When you know he’s not for you or vice versa, delete the number, avoid all communication because this will free you up for the next suitor. I would go out on dates because I was bored. I began to get so consumed with the “why” we were not compatible, I realized that I was wasting time by routinely dating the wrong guys.

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Rapper Kevin Gates and his wife Dreka Gates photo credit: via instagram @iamkevingates and @realdrekagates

Dating is challenging in a world full of social media distractions. After drooling on my phone for a minute over a guy on instagram who was clearly made in Gods chocolate image; I came back to senses to realize that his looks may fade over time but will his loyalty to his wife and family come first. Will he profess his love for me even when I am not around? Will he provide for our family at all cost? Will he protect our family from harm?

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