#WritersBlocKWednesday: Does Love TRUMP Everything Else

I’ve been all in my feelings about not being able to have time for an active social life. I’m in the middle of retail holiday season right now. I barely have time to get any beauty rest let alone go out on a date. After several months of ‘waiting’ (including reading the book called #TheWait) and years of dating, technology has come between the physical mating process. Now y’all know I’m a hopeless romantic. I can’t help it. I need to be spoiled, caressed and mentally stimulated in person. I was born into royalty as a pampered black princess yaaasss honey. Smh and so I digress. However, I have grown into a beautiful and intelligent queen who is seasoning herself for my god-fearing Boaz.pink_3In the game of love, I’m playing with a full deck but does love really trump it all? Do you know your relationship deal breakers? What will let your man or woman get away with? Intentionally withholding information to gain leverage in the relationship. Cheating. Lying. Mental abuse. Verbal abuse. Jealousy. What will it take for you to walk away from love? I evaluate and reevaluate traditional gender roles to see if I’m playing with a full house. I’m not perfect neither do I expect my Boaz to be. Know the difference between a man who is not perfect and one that is not perfect for you. He should want to strive for perfection within himself in ways that please God. Which in turn pleases you. I think that’s where the phrase ‘ happy wife, happy life’ came from. I demand mutual respect for my life and my feelings. A silent educated black woman is deadly.

pink_2I decided to take a play on words. Thus…the word ‘trump’.

What does the word ‘trump ‘ mean?

To outshine; outclasses; upstage; surpass; outdo; outperform. A valuable resource that may be used, especially as a surprise, in order to gain an advantage. When playing a card game of the suit chosen to rank above the others, which can win a trick where a card of a different suit has been led.

Why do I blog? To share my frustrations about this crazy life’s journey of love, peace and fabulousness in hopes that my testimonies helps a reader get a better understanding on how to my deal with it all. Black women are negatively spoken of especially when it comes to our marriages/relationships and parenting skills. But the truth is that the lack of one on one daily interaction is hindering a positive  dating life. The silence of every key strokes is hurting my love life. No Facetime. No Texting. No Pics. No DMs. I’m tired of it all! Just court me like an old fashion man already! Call me! Talk! I talk back! I’ve been told I have a sexy voice too.

pink_1With life comes aging, growth and maturity. I’ve learned that heart-break is going to happen. I’d rather have my heart-broken in a few pieces than in a million pieces. The truth hurts. Brace yourself for the pain.

  • Asking questions.
  • Listen to the response fully.
  • Seek to understand before judging. #KahluasKonfessions

I makeup flawed but my makeup is perfect. #makeupby KahluaParker

#WritersBlockWednesday: Routine Or Addiction

blackloveDoes having a type mean you are settling for what you routinely like dating? Or could it be that you are addicted to loving the wrong person at any cost? I have been struggling with practicing #TheWait; waiting on my true love; the man that Yahweh has for me. I am a addicted to what I physically like so therefore I routinely date those types of guys. I desire a tall, dark, handsome, intelligent and god-fearing man that adores my body, worships my brains and appreciates my intelligence. Finding my Boaz has been no easy tasks. While patiently waiting, I decided to re-connect with me. Being the best I can be improves the dating process. Clear clutter for clarity! When you know he’s not for you or vice versa, delete the number, avoid all communication because this will free you up for the next suitor. I would go out on dates because I was bored. I began to get so consumed with the “why” we were not compatible, I realized that I was wasting time by routinely dating the wrong guys.

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Rapper Kevin Gates and his wife Dreka Gates photo credit: via instagram @iamkevingates and @realdrekagates

Dating is challenging in a world full of social media distractions. After drooling on my phone for a minute over a guy on instagram who was clearly made in Gods chocolate image; I came back to senses to realize that his looks may fade over time but will his loyalty to his wife and family come first. Will he profess his love for me even when I am not around? Will he provide for our family at all cost? Will he protect our family from harm?

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I may be flawed but my makeup is perfect #KahluaParker
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#WritersBlockWednesdays: Are WE Ready For Matrimony

If you been on this #glitzglamgossip journey with me then you know that I’m a hopeless romantic. I love love. I love love songs. No matter how many times I experience heartbreak, I know that true love is still  possible. When I heard ‘Matrimony’ by Wale featuring R&B crooner Usher lol I fell in love all over again. Then when I when to youtube and saw the video my heart melted. I immediately added it to my #SummerLove2015 youtube playlist.wedding_candles

If there’s a question of my heart, you’ve got it
It don’t belong to anyone but you
If there’s a question of my love, you’ve got it
Baby don’t worry, I’ve got plans for you

But I’m promisin’ you better though
And your friends sayin’ let him go
And we ain’t gettin’ any younger
I can give up now but I can promise you forever though

After reading #TheWait by DevonFranklin and Meagan Good, I realized that I was created to love and receive love from the man who God (not Kahlua) has prepared just for me. I learned a lot about myself, the type of the guys I was choosing to date and how reconnect with God for spiritual guidance in times of weakness. I’m still a work in progress. Judge if you will but Im still going to love on me some chocolate lol.

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I may be flawed but my makeup is perfect #KahluaParker
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#WritersBlockWednesdays: Is Beauty Only Skin Deep

skindeep_natural4Whew! this California weather change has taken a beating up on my skin. It has been extremely hot during the day and cold at night. No complaints here just stating the facts. Born and raised in Cali….the weather here year round is great….just not right as were transitioning into fall lol. Between my allergy flare ups and testing out these beauty products; now it not the time to be battling changing weather climate shenanigans. You don’t know how to dress in the morning let alone which face to put on.

Since I’ve been in-between skin outbreaks, I’ve been upset at the world and didn’t want to see anybody. Too vain to go outside without makeup let alone showcasing skin that was dry, tight, itching, irritated, peeling. But even with a face full of hives, it does gets better. Thank god for dry essential oils. Smashbox Photo Finish Primer Oil gave my skin life with a flawless glow both underneath and on top of my foundation. Determined not to get behind on my to-do-list, I made it work. I always say beauty is suffering and sacrifice. This season I took one for the team yaaasss honey! And the beauty revenge award going to…..The Intoxicating Beauty, Kahlua Parker.

I am my beauty brand; Kahlua Parker also known as Kahlua Parker Beauty. As my brand expands into other areas within the cosmetics industry, I have been a walking billboard. Double checking my makeup look. Triple checking my power moves. The representation of my business brand means everything to my overall success. As shallow and contradictory as it may seem…my looks are everything.skindeep_natural3

People are judging me at every post, tweet, angle, filter and how many times I wore my favorite black dress. I’ve been skin depressed for about month now. I had events to attend, dates to go on and haters to slay on; ain’t nobody got time for jacked up skin. There was no time to be sobbing over how my skin looked. This is my passion. Whether people agree with my vanity or not. It sure as hell not going to stop me from encouraging others to enhance their definition of beauty.

Be your own kind of beautiful. Beauty is only skin deep. There are a lot of attractive people in this world with ugly insides. I’m organic; a genuinely nice person with a good heart. The world teaches you to hate but I still love hard. I love deep. I’m loyal to a fault.

Royalty is in my blood. I’m at a point in my life where inner peace is where I feel most confident despite life’s opposition.

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I may be flawed but my makeup is perfect #KahluaParker
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#WritersBlockWednesdays: WiFi Love

Technology opens Pandors box. The options are limitless. Will you WiFi your love in 2016?
#KahluasKonfessions

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Whew!…
for the last few weeks Ive not only been working my face, missing Sunday morning worship and trying to stay ahead of the trends; I’ve been #LoveInLimbo with a few of my suitors. Before I start downloading my feelings to this dude I need to know is this a real connection. I honestly don’t have the energy to continue with the dating shenanigans.  “I’ve realized that you continue to text me instead of calling me because you have nothing to talk about.” Hashtag you are the you could do better list in my phone

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Recently, my friends have been encouraging me to sign up for online dating. Ummm WiFi love??? I laughed so hard. I figure the odds of a person lying to me are greater increased. He can create this ideal man online but then when it comes down to shipping he either can’t deliver or comes with a lot of fluff. I get all that plus good snacks with human love. Who needs a WiFi love too??? It takes too much time to feel out the application, upload a nice but not slutty profile pic then browse potential matches. Lately since watching love reality TV shows; Arranged, Married At First Sight, 90 Day Fiance has me addicted to the idea of arranged marriages putting your quest of love and committment to the real test. Smh honestly I would be open to an arranged marriage. Omg I can’t believe I wrote that. But this is my online diary duh. Well I will just give it god and go to sleep. I’m definitely not going to loose any beauty sleep over. But venting is good for the soul.

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I say my 2016 new years love resolution is to know what you need in a man, know what you want in a man but be willing to compromise. Finding love is the easy part. The real work is keeping the love that you found.